One day I googled the word “teen” and was not surprised to see “teen anxiety” as one of the first terms to show up in the results. Usually, when people think about teens, they think we’re in our prime years, with no real problems until we go to college and become young adults. That is not the reality for teens, especially not for most teen girls, who tend to face more pressure from society than boys to live up to certain standards.
A New York Times article about why girls have more anxiety than boys explained, “Imagine another girl sitting in her bedroom, alone. She’s scrolling through other girls’ Instagram and Snapchat feeds. She sees Sonya showing off her new bikini; Sonya looks awesome. She sees Madison at a party having a blast. She sees Vanessa with her adorable new puppy. And she thinks, I’m just sitting here in my bedroom, not doing anything. My life sucks.” (Sax 2016).
Comparing yourself to others causes a lot of anxiety. You want to be as happy or as attractive as the people you see on Instagram or Snap, so you put pressure on yourself to live a certain life based on the standards and opinions of others. I know I’ve had moments in my life where I felt I was doing something wrong because I was too focused on what other young women my age were doing instead of just running my race at my own pace. No more of that, Luvlies! Today, we are going to focus on fighting anxiety instead of feeding it. Below are some of the ways I’ve curved anxiety in my life. These things have truly made me feel more relaxed and balanced. Maybe they’ll bring a little positivity to someone else who may be feeling anxious about life.
Ways to Work Through Anxiety
Be real with yourself. By that, I mean address whatever is causing your anxiety or making you feel unhappy. You won’t be able to deal with what’s going on in your life if you don’t face it head-on.
Focus on your breathing. There are so many health benefits that come with taking deep breaths. When you start to feel anxious, try to calm yourself with deep breathing and counting down from ten slowly.
Listen to music. Music not only relaxes me, it gets me in a zone. Our favorite music artists sometimes say all the things we’re feeling, which can definitely be a comfort during anxious times.
Talk it out. If you have someone in your life you can trust, try venting to them about what you’re feeling. After I’ve talked about what’s making me feel anxious, it’s like a weight has been lifted off of me!
Take a break from social media! I love being able to connect with people through social media, which has made it a positive part of my life. BUT, social media has become the center of our lives and for a lot of us, it’s become an addiction. All the access and exposure can overwhelm, so logging off to chill by myself has become one of my favorite things to do. My friends and family think I’m a loner for doing this, and people may think you're being weird, too, but it’s all about what works for you!
Try some or all of these tips and let me know if any were able to help you overcome a moment of anxiety. If you have ways of dealing with anxiety, please share them in the comments below.