I’ve always been into female empowerment. One of the ways I show it is by following girl code—along with everything my parents and my village taught me, of course.
Life can be a lot, so it’s important that we, as young women, support each other in living right as much as we can. The exchange of useful info is one of the ways I like to support my people. With that in mind, I’ve gathered a few girl code keys to share with my Luvlies today.
My 5 girl-code attributes for staying 10 toes down:
I take loyalty seriously. Friends should stick by you through life’s tough times. I want my friends to be ride-or-die, which for me, means coming to my defense, if necessary, or warning me about negative situations that I have no idea are coming.
Being a source of motivation not only helps others, it helps you as well. We all have times when we feel like giving up or don’t feel like giving our all. Those are the times when someone has to bring the positivity. Motivation is contagious, so surround yourself with supportive people. Encourage your friends to accomplish a goal, like trying out for a sport or applying for their dream internship position, and watch how it motivates you to work on your goals.
3. Staying Connected
Schedules tend to become busier over time, making it harder to hang out with your besties. But the communication between you and your friends shouldn’t stop just because life gets hectic. Keeping in touch with your besties shows them you care, even when you don’t get to see them. Shooting a quick “just checking in” text takes almost no time. And since group Facetime calls are a way of life these days, thanks to COVID-19, there’s really no excuse for not connecting.
Honesty is the most important thing in any relationship, but keep in mind, the truth can sometimes hurt. Be gentle when telling the truth. Think about people’s feelings and present your truth the way you would want it presented to you.
This rule may be last, but it is certainly not least. It’s the classic girl-code rule of not dating people with past ties to a friend. Friend circles are broken every day because someone didn’t respect a friend at a sister level. So, as a reminder: NEVER put a “mister” before someone who’s like your sister. Do NOT date your friend’s ex, nor do I recommend dating someone your friend was crushing on, even if they act like they’re over it. Too much potential for things to get messy and awkward. Like the old saying goes, there are plenty of fish out there, but try to avoid fishing at the same pond. OK, that's not how the saying goes, but you get the point. Lol!
Have you ever had a friend violate girl code? Are you assessing the friendship and thinking of making some changes? Let’s chat about it.
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